21/2/24 Decision to publish.

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 21st February 2024.



In the light of this reply, my criteria now for defining ethical behavior and therefore what an ethical therapist would do in a similar situation comes down simply to this; an ethical therapist shows courage enough to state his or her feelings with honesty - and compassion. 

His attitude towards me at the beginning of 'therapy' was not clear - there were three occasions at least when it was possible to interpret his behaviour, as interested. But the fact remains that if he had said that he didn't have any interest in me when I'd asked, instead of acting with incredulity that I could ever think such a thing of him, and on a second occasion when I sought clarity, and noticed instead his embarrassment - blushing - we could have got somewhere better than this.

Fortunately this is his problem not mine. I simply have but one decision to make. To shut down all communication - as asked - and then to open the black box up for everyone, or do I not do this?

Fundamentally it is not good practice to be avoidant when a client says that there is an issue about the relationship.
When a client has an issue with the therapist that needs to be resolved, the first rule is to make contact the therapist.
And if the therapist closes all communication down, fulminates and splutters? The next step is a complaint to the professional governing body. The question I ask is this, what is more important? Receiving an apology from him saying that he understands that he handled this very badly. 

Or, do I make our interaction freeware - in the hope that it might help you to see your way through a similar dilemma, if such befalls you!

Kit has been given an opportunity to seek resolution. 
Resolution failed: 

Therefore the outcome of this is that anyone who reads this blog will only hear my side of what happened. 



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