The reparative relationship...
"I am the slaughter at your altar. That's where my need for you begins..." M. Gira. The Beggar. "I wasn't talking about you, I was talking about my principles, my ethical rule, that once a client always a client because you never know what the future is going to bring, and people do come back" I could not understand for the life of me why Kit thought I'd ever return as a client? But then... he wasn't 'talking about me '. Whilst at the same moment, talking to me This erasure, this double bind, this? Well what on earth is it when a person uses the term 'you' and then makes clear that they don't mean you? Anyway! This led to me feeling so utterly rejected, disliked even. I'd dismiss it as utter ignorance on the part of the speaker...but, he is a therapist. and he doesn't think there is any need for apology. or reparation, so? So I blog. It was such a corrosive poison it has taken - I was about to say, it has taken this bl...