Definition of abuse.

Any interaction by one person, or a group of people that causes another person or people to experience meaningless - to them - physical, emotional or psychological pain becomes abuse when there is a refusal by a person, or a group of people to acknowledge the sufferer's experience and change the interaction from causing distress, to creating flow and the fulfilment of human needs.


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