Penelope.
or rather , what about all the suiters? The mythos surrounding erotic transfer states that a likely cause (Factor X) of the transference is that the client is in need of an erotic relationship. This wasn't the case when I was caught up in the strangeness of my evening with The Man of Stars, nor did it fit with the Eleusis experience. And nor did it fit the moment when I fell for the 'love of my life'. Sometimes psychotherapeutic theory is as plausible as 'the diabetes model of mental health' and Cupid's arrow. In the first two experiences (whilst Eleusis wasn't 'erotic' in any conventional sense) there was a link, something about 'us', a shared experience that made us fit like jigsaw puzzle pieces. This created the potential for a deeper and more vital, relational depth. The fascinating thing is, that the linking catches subliminally. Also it is about transition. There would not, could not be an 'us' in any conventional sense. And...