Rollrights and the labyrinth.

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When I took this photo I was waiting for my friend, sitting with my back to a tree. Half an hour before, I'd joined the circle with a group of pagans who had fed me mead and apple cake. 

I still hadn't made up my mind what to do though.

So I sat by the tree waiting.

My friend and I stood at the centre of the circle and as a man walked past us, I asked him ' it is a yes no question' could you answer for me?

He took out of his pocket a purple disc marked with a golden, Chartres type labyrinth,

'Labyrinth means yes...' I said.

And it fell.

Labyrinth face upwards.

I hit send...[+]

I didn't feel better straight away. I felt panic,  I looked up at the grey sky, felt the rain, heard the wind rushing through the trees. Everything changes. Later the man returned to the circle and gave me the labyrinth disc.

Back home, messages from the 'witches' at the Rollrights inviting me to their Samhain meeting. Messages from therapy 'sisters' of support.

Curry cooking.
Beer in fridge.

I sat down at my computer, listening to Loop, and I made sure that every file marked 3lack 3ox is deleted.


 

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